Bismillahirrahmanirrahim..
Assalammu'alaikum w.b.t
Apekah itu couple?
Oh, sebenarnya tak da perancangan pun nk tulis pasal ni. But after I read a blog recommended by a friend on fb, it triggered me to write my view on this mushy and slushy thing. Ahak!
This is merely a review from a not-yet-21-years-old girl who had encountered such thing before. During my lower form (haha,kecik-kecik lagi da gatai meghenyam). Erk? Lol. It's not something to be proud of but it's a SHAMEFUL ACT.
At least I learnt my lesson,ain't it? Allah uji sekali. Dan alhamdulillah saya belajar drpd situ,gradually. As i grow up, I become more matured(?) and understand the purpose of my life.
Ok, menjawap kpd soalan di atas,pd saya dan org kebanyakan couple itu adalah hubungan antara lelaki dan perempuan yang kebiasannya sebelum berkahwin. Lebih spesifik, sebelum bertunang.
Apakah yang anda cari/mengharap daripada hubungan sebegini? I have an elder sister and a younger sister. My elder sister possesses one. She never coupled before till she reached 18/19/20(?). I don't remember. She asked me once before, 'Is it fun to have a couple?'. Naa, sorry. I don't remember my answer. If I'm not mistaken, she was asking after I broke off. So, my possible answer is 'No. It's not. You made sinS from it. It's tiring because why you wanna sacrifice for someone who is certainly not yours?' this is a bit exaggerated =.='. Regardless of this matter, she still get along with that guy.
My younger one. Haha. She got a lot. She loves to socialize with people and sooooooo friendly. A bit opposite from me. No matter how much I advised her, she still enjoying having 'couple'. I guess she's not yet matured. Hopefully, she'll get a good and pious husband who'll lead her to jannah. InshaAllah. :)
Me? Haha. Frankly speaking, I got one before. Once is more than enough to give me tremendous lessons. Thanks to Allah for woke me up from a long deep sleep. Alhamdulillah, alhamdulillah, alhamdulillah. It's such a wake up call!! You know what, once you love someone that means you breached your heart to be hurt. *It's a quote*. When I broke off, I started to think of why do I loved this guy. Why don't I love the One who created this guy? I turned to Him. Allah. Seek for his mercy and refugees. I felt having a boyfriend is such a waste. Wasting your Money, Time, Energy and etc. Don't you think so?
Ok, let me bring you to a deep thinking.
- Who gave you the money? ALLAH. And why don't you spend it properly? I mean,used your money for the sake of Allah. Allah provides it via our parents. Why we spend hours talking on the phone with our bf/gf, while we barely spend few minutes to talk to them instead?
- Who equipped you energy? ALLAH. And why don't you utilized it for His sake? Worshiping Him day and night. Make all your actions as Ibadah. From these, you'll earn rewards (pahala) which very useful and helpful for entering His jannah (paradise).
- Who provide you time? ALLAH. And is it okay if you forgot Him? He is our Sustain-er, Provider. He gives us 24 hours a day and how many hours did we allocate to remember Him? 30minutes? 1 hour or 2? Only during solat? We cry upon quarreled with him/her. But did we cry regretting for our sinful acts?
Think3~
What you got from remembering the so-called lover/partner? Did he/she gives you adequate love,care,attention? No, right? That's why you always demand more from him/her. Oh, the most important is 'don't you think having a couple will lead you to hell?' We inevitably increasing our sins from it. We're in a great loss! Control our temptations/nafs properly.
Turn to Allah. Filled our heart with love and remembrance of Allah. My mum once said, 'If there's a guy I placed in my heart, then the knowledge won't enter your heart easily.' Why? Because we unconsciously, dirtied our heart with black dots. Ilmu itu ibarat cahaya, dan ia tidak akan memasuki hati yang kotor. That's why sometimes we feel it's really hard to understand or memorize even the simple one. I'm very open towards my parents. I showed them whom I liked. The above shows my mum reaction towards it. Haha. Okay, mum..ai ai, captain!
While I was engaged with this sinful act, Allah gave me lots of victory and triumph. I wasn't realized it before. I was such an ungrateful slave. Well, like I told in the previous entry, kadang-kadang ujian yang Allah berikan kepada kita adalah sama, cuma dalam bentuk yg berbeza apabila kita tidak belajar dari ujian yang pertama.
Contoh: orang yang dah banyak kali ber'couple but still fall in a long deep sleep. WAKE UP PEOPLE! Don't be deceived by dunya and syaitan. Allah tests you with the same trial but through different people you've coupled with. so, turn to Him before its too late --> KIAMAT. You still got time!! :)
Why? Somehow you worry if there won't be anyone to marry with? Believe in Allah. But remember, you need to put some effort before leave the rest to Allah. Such as a du'a. He'll assign the best partner for you. No worries ^_^.
Sesungguhnya, hati setiap manusia dipegang oleh Allah. Berdoalah serta bertawakkal kepada-Nya. Rely on Him. He won't disappoint you. Seriously!
Thanks for reading.
#p/s: this is merely my opinions. Either to be agreed or not, it's up to u. :)
Jazakumullahu khaiyran kathira.
